Defensive behavior looks and sounds like one or more of the following:<\/p>\n

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• “I am not to blame.”<\/li>\n
• “It’s not my fault.”<\/li>\n
• “I’ve already explained myself.”<\/li>\n
• “Why am I repeating myself?”<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

  There is a difference between being “firm” and being “defensive.” You need a way to deal with time wasters and bullies by being firm, but without being defensive.<\/p>\n

  Defensive behavior is less likely if you are open, ready to listen, ready to adapt, and ready to acknowledge a mistake.<\/p>\n

  If you have to offer a different point of view that contradicts your co-worker, do so as a matter of fact, without getting defensive. It takes a couple of attempts to get to a problem\/situation description that everyone can agree upon. I’d argue that the fear of being wrong is perhaps the biggest reason for defensive behavior.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

  Defensive behavior looks and sounds like one or more of the following: “I am not to blame.” “It’s not my fault.” “I’ve already explained myself.” “Why am I repeating myself?” There is a difference between being “firm” and being “defensive.” You need a way to deal with time wasters and bullies by being […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_s2mail":"yes"},"categories":[12],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1963"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1963"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1963\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2001,"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1963\/revisions\/2001"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1963"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1963"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/strategyexecutioninstitute.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1963"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}