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#239 Flexible and adaptable

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If you are flexible and adaptable, you will never suffer. That is guaranteed. It is also guaranteed, depending on how much ground you have to cover, that you will face mild to severe discomfort when developing flexibility and adaptability.

First, what is flexibility and adaptability:

  • It is listening to your audience with an open mind and being able to repeat what is truly on your audience’s mind.
  • It is adjusting your approach, whether it is your behavior, your process, or specific steps to what you do.
  • It is finding creative solutions by minimizing or eliminating the need to compromise by anyone.

What it is not:

  • It is not abandoning your values and beliefs. You will stay true to your values beliefs, but modify your approach.
  • It is not abandoning who you are. You do not have to give up who you are as a person.
  • It is not saying “yes” when you really mean “no.”

The inability to think critically and inability to sort through your thoughts, feelings, and emotions, and simply reacting is the foundation for inflexibility. Once you sort it all out, the discipline to behave differently is what will make you flexible and adaptable.

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#238 The Losada ratio

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It is generally accepted that being positive is better than being negative. However, positive and negative outlooks are facts of life. You can speculate on whether an outlook adopted by any given person is driven by nature or nurture. Is there a limit to the amount of positive or negative thoughts beyond which it is harmful to you? Is there an optimal ratio and range that can be quantified?

Personally, I don’t care, and propose that neither should you. The Losada ratio attempts to quantify the optimal ratio of positive to negative thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Per Dr. Marcial Losada, there is a range outside which people will have poorer outcomes at home and at work. Meaning, if your positive outlook is way more than your negative outlook, or if your negative outlook is way more than your positive outlook, you are headed for trouble.

Interestingly, Dr. Losada attempted to formulate a mathematical model to explain this, and was immediately challenged by his peers, who took exception to his methodology. From a cursory review of the material around this topic, I conclude they are both right, and between them I am sure they can figure out how to present the concept in an acceptable way. Or not.

For you, however, the message is simple. Your work life will have positive and negative moments. Develop your awareness of your inner feelings and outer behavior, and monitor the ratio. Just attempting to calculate this ratio for yourself will raise your awareness. Find the tipping point where the ratio is proving unproductive or dysfunctional. It is not necessary to quantify this ratio or wait for someone to prove it beyond a shadow of doubt. If you find the range for yourself, you can show others how to do it as well.

Thank you CD, I heard about the “Losada ratio” from you. I dedicate this blog to you, one of the most positive and grounded person I have the privilege of knowing.

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