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#106 Polarizing comments

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What if you were not allowed to use polarizing comments? You know, the ones that are divisive, the words that stir emotions, and divides the room. These are also comments that invite immediate vitriol, sarcasm, snub, or other hostile response.

Answer: The workplace would be very boring.

Polarizing comments are not a bad thing, if used in a controlled way, from a positive state of mind, and used clearly to make a point, or inject urgency. When made from a negative state of mind, they create dysfunction, FUD, and communication gaps.

It never hurts to be able to state your case or describe a problem in a way that no one could argue about its accuracy. This means, leave out your opinions, your emotions, and just describe reality using words that are not polarizing.

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#97 Nowhere to go

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You have a complaint, you take it to your parents. In school, you take it to your teacher, then escalate it to the principal. At work, you take it to your boss, his or her boss, HR, and even the CEO.

For some complaints, (for some of you, many complaints) you find there is no response. You get frustrated.

The truth is, the receiver of the complaint will act if they can, and if they think it is worth it. Sometimes, they don’t have all the information, but don’t know how to ask for it. Sometimes they think you are wasting their time, but prefer to avoid conflict rather than coach you.

Meanwhile, you are simply training yourself to take your problems to others, people you perceive to be in “positions of power” and who “need to do something about it.”

What if you decided that you are the person in a position of power? You are going to do something about it and you are going to recruit your boss, HR, your boss’ boss, the CEO or whoever it takes to get it done. Build a coalition that will solve the problem. Now that is an ability no one will complain about.

Before you rush around taking on the responsibility to solve tough problems, you need the ability to tell when you truly, truly need to hold someone accountable for solving a problem. Wait, I just realized the above guidance still applies! Phew!

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