Monthly Archives: June 2013

#172 Dependence

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The modern workplace requires interdependence. Tasks are complex, technology simplifies some tasks, but requires new behaviors, thus created unexpected complexity. Task dependency is a pain, but a bigger problem is emotional dependency.

Your co-workers can be a source of strength, or they can drain your strength. They can cheer you on, or pick imaginary holes in your ideas. They can applaud you for your achievements or punish you for your errors and failures.

The true source of strength is within you. This means:

  • Identify and mitigate risks in your workplace. Have a plan B, in case plan A fails, falters, or veers off course. This will make you less dependent on individuals, without abandoning interdependence.
  • Be compassionate with your co-workers for their thoughtless speech and action. You have to forgive them, for they know not what they do. Do not let your self-confidence by impacted negatively or positively, work to achieve equanimity.
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#171 Self expression

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As we grow in our careers, we rise in Maslow’s hierarchy. In the beginning, we have a really strong need to express ourselves, be heard, have our way, and be in control.

Over time, this need eases, as we realize it is more important to connect and communicate with our audience. The reason is simple: if you cannot get thru to your audience, you will not succeed, and not rise in Maslow’s hierarchy.

The need for self-expression never really goes away. At the lower levels of the hierarchy, this need is based in fear, self preservation, and ego. At the higher levels, it is based on the need to self-actualize.

Thus, is not necessary to be embarrassed about your need for self-expression. Turn your efforts to convincing others that it is in their best interest to let you express yourself. This will force you to develop communication (and selling) skills. You will turn your attention to applying the more evolved attachment theory in your workplace.

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